Comments on: The Victory of Defeat… http://cocoacrusty.com/2008/07/06/the-victory-of-defeat/ Still Eatin' on Ho Hos... Thu, 08 Jan 2009 20:59:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Cocoa Crusty http://cocoacrusty.com/2008/07/06/the-victory-of-defeat/#comment-717 Cocoa Crusty Thu, 10 Jul 2008 13:34:01 +0000 http://cocoacrusty.com/?p=183#comment-717 Totally true, Josh. I have finally realized this and am trying to deal with letting these things go. I posted <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/fruitfulstudios/2648610962/" rel="nofollow">this photo</a> the other day to my Flickr page with the following caption: <b>Where do we go from here?!</b> I've been trying so hard for so long to hold on to things that I can't hold on to any more. I have tried to hold on to emotions long after the time has come to get over it. I have tried to change people into seeing things my way. I have tried to do everything but focus on me and make me who I want to be... I have been a fool for far too long worrying about things that I can not change, or even influence. Today has GOT TO BE a turning point for me... Totally true, Josh. I have finally realized this and am trying to deal with letting these things go.

I posted this photo the other day to my Flickr page with the following caption:

Where do we go from here?!

I’ve been trying so hard for so long to hold on to things that I can’t hold on to any more. I have tried to hold on to emotions long after the time has come to get over it. I have tried to change people into seeing things my way. I have tried to do everything but focus on me and make me who I want to be…

I have been a fool for far too long worrying about things that I can not change, or even influence. Today has GOT TO BE a turning point for me…

]]> By: Josh http://cocoacrusty.com/2008/07/06/the-victory-of-defeat/#comment-716 Josh Thu, 10 Jul 2008 05:43:49 +0000 http://cocoacrusty.com/?p=183#comment-716 You have the manual already, you just don't read it. Things worth fighting about: 1. God 2. Family 3. Yourself Unfortunately, you've been fighting *against* yourself for so long, that *unhappiness* is your way of being. You have to force that out - through meditation, music, change of lifestyle, prayer, something, but it has got to be A CHANGE! I've read a lot of "I'm gonna change" on this blog, and now it's time to. Do it! Start tomorrow! React to everything in a happy, good, kind way, even if you have to fake it. Be reasonable, but learn to love your brother even if he doesn't love you back. (That's in the manual too, b/t/w.) All of the answers are right in front of your face. Just take them. You have the manual already, you just don’t read it.

Things worth fighting about:
1. God
2. Family
3. Yourself

Unfortunately, you’ve been fighting *against* yourself for so long, that *unhappiness* is your way of being. You have to force that out - through meditation, music, change of lifestyle, prayer, something, but it has got to be A CHANGE! I’ve read a lot of “I’m gonna change” on this blog, and now it’s time to. Do it! Start tomorrow! React to everything in a happy, good, kind way, even if you have to fake it. Be reasonable, but learn to love your brother even if he doesn’t love you back. (That’s in the manual too, b/t/w.) All of the answers are right in front of your face. Just take them.

]]> By: Jennifer http://cocoacrusty.com/2008/07/06/the-victory-of-defeat/#comment-713 Jennifer Tue, 08 Jul 2008 02:20:04 +0000 http://cocoacrusty.com/?p=183#comment-713 Hugs! (And, FWIW, I haven't found a manual for life yet either. When you find one, I need a copy too!) Hugs!

(And, FWIW, I haven’t found a manual for life yet either. When you find one, I need a copy too!)

]]> By: Cocoa Crusty http://cocoacrusty.com/2008/07/06/the-victory-of-defeat/#comment-712 Cocoa Crusty Tue, 08 Jul 2008 01:49:02 +0000 http://cocoacrusty.com/?p=183#comment-712 Ah, BHC... That's not the answer I was looking for. I need the freaking manual... RTFM!!! I need to know this: a.) Is worth fighting for... b.) Is not worth fighting for... I'm tired of challenges... Give me the manual!!! :) Cocoa Ah, BHC… That’s not the answer I was looking for. I need the freaking manual… RTFM!!! I need to know this:

a.) Is worth fighting for…

b.) Is not worth fighting for…

I’m tired of challenges… Give me the manual!!! :)

Cocoa

]]> By: bhc http://cocoacrusty.com/2008/07/06/the-victory-of-defeat/#comment-711 bhc Mon, 07 Jul 2008 22:23:12 +0000 http://cocoacrusty.com/?p=183#comment-711 Some things really are worth fighting for, though what an individual determines those things to be will be completely up to that particular individual's values. But there are indeed some things you're better off letting go of and telling yourself "I will just be myself and if it comes to me, then so be it. If it does not come to me, then so be it." That is one of the greatest challenges in life, figuring out the things you ~can~ change by fighting, and figuring out the things you ~can't~ change no matter how hard you fight. I too have fought for things that never seemed to change, and I'm trying hard here lately to accept that those things are just the way they are, even though I've realized they will never be shaped quite the way I want. The best thing I can do is just to assimilate that knowledge and go forward in search of other things that make me happy. Some things really are worth fighting for, though what an individual determines those things to be will be completely up to that particular individual’s values.

But there are indeed some things you’re better off letting go of and telling yourself “I will just be myself and if it comes to me, then so be it. If it does not come to me, then so be it.”

That is one of the greatest challenges in life, figuring out the things you ~can~ change by fighting, and figuring out the things you ~can’t~ change no matter how hard you fight. I too have fought for things that never seemed to change, and I’m trying hard here lately to accept that those things are just the way they are, even though I’ve realized they will never be shaped quite the way I want. The best thing I can do is just to assimilate that knowledge and go forward in search of other things that make me happy.

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